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Sunita is an Executive Coach, Trainer and Consultant. She is of Indian origin and was born in London before moving to Geneva in 1992. She has a Psychology background (specialising in Occupational Psychology) and a Post Graduate in the Development and Training of Adults. She also completed a Masters in Ressources Humaines, Coaching et Gestion des Carrières at the University of Geneva.

During her 25 years experience Sunita's drive has always been to help people to do their best and hence led her to create Walk The Talk.

In her free time Sunita is a Mentor for the Branson Center of Entrepreneurship and a proud member of the School in The Cloud Team.

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By Sunita Sehmi, Walk The Talk

In her late 20s, Ms Aradhna Sethi moved out of her protected maternal home and into her new life as a wife in a country far, far away. Little did she grasp that she had, indeed, stepped into the tumultuous life of an expat spouse. Her whole existence changed and she experienced the flavours of life that she never had imagined. She is the author of "The Entrepreneur's Wife: A Survival Guide". The book will make you laugh, cry and help you manage your fears. She uncovers it all and whether you are the spouse, fiancée or girlfriend of an entrepreneur, a business owner yourself or simply a curious sit back you will thoroughly enjoy this book. I was lucky enough to interview Aradhna I really hope you enjoy her interview as much as I did.
 
Tell us a little bit about you. Who are you, where are your from, etc.…
I was born in India, I grew up in Chandigarh, Jammu, Delhi, Bangalore, Ahmedabad and Mumbai. My father worked with Indian Oil Corporation - and it was due to his promotions that the family moved every three to four years. Although leaving behind friends was always tough, my mother was my teacher, my psychologist, my guide - and my best friend for life. She was a constant source of encouragement as she bubbled with life and energy, telling my brother and I that it was time for a fresh start, time to leave behind what we didn't like and carry forth memories of the pleasant times. Those days, she ensured we kept in touch with our friends through letters. It was always fun.

I was a fairly good student, taking challenges and competitions in my stride.

While I schooled all over the country (excluding the east), my college life spanned Delhi and Bombay. I then joined Femina as a trainee in 1996 and left the magazine as the senior copy editor in 2000 - just before my wedding to Anil Sethi, with whom I moved to Switzerland in 2001.

Anil was then with IBM, but moved into the start-up world within a few years. He co-founded an ETH spin-off and went on to author "From Science to Start up" (Springer Publishers), which has been selected as one of the top 5 management books worldwide.

He set foot into the entrepreneurial world and in 2007, I turned into the entrepreneur's wife, financial safety net, mother, friend, counsellor, sounding board and much more.

Could you tell us more about your idea behind your book The Entrepreneur's Wife: A Survival Guide?
I studied journalism, but my final goal was always to be an author. I'd been toying with the idea of writing for a while, but life and its turns led me to always hold a job in the communications field. While it helped pay the bills of the start-up family, it took me further away from my dream for a while - until the time when I was angered and shocked to learn that my husband was writing a book. I couldn't stand the thought of him taking my dream away from me right under my nose; especially when I was supporting him all this while. That anger egged me to write, write and write - passion, anger, love, bliss, peace, chaos - it all flowed out of me and took the shape of my debut book. So yes, I have to thank him for the experiences and for the subtle and strong reinforcement to look at my own dream again.

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The book is largely autobiographical and women relate to it in many ways. I've been told by my readers that aspects of my life reflected some of their lives - they related, connected and bonded - and even learned how to deal with certain situations. The book has taken a life of its own among the readers who I've had a chance to interact with. And that really was the idea - to share a story that brought the readers to tears, made them face their fears, find their own solutions and get on with life with a smile.

The idea is to enjoy the highs of life when they come, and learn to roll with the blows. As readers, you will connect, laugh, cry and laugh till you cry again. You will be involved in the making and breaking and resurrection of an entrepreneur's wife.

Is it just for expats?
No - it's for women from all walks of life. And I hear, men have enjoyed sharing the read, too.

You also run Life, Spice & More what’s that about?
That's my social media (FB mainly) page for the promotion of this book and the others that are still work in progress...

What’s the next challenge for trailing spouses?
For many, it's continuing to be financially independent; or having to suddenly deal with the idea of being a 'housewife'. Unfortunately, this very important role is still underrated... Little do people realize - spending time with your kids and shaping them, it shaping the future attitude and direction of the world! A housewife does a lot - she's not a cook, but a chef; she may not earn, but she is a manager of finances, organizer of all services for the family - big or small, and a resource in times of chaos.

So yes - dealing with this role brings along its own perceived set of challenges.

Another challenge is keeping boredom at bay - many don’t know what to do with their time and tend to clamour for their home countries and get homesick beyond reason.

Language - that's a MUST to integrate. And integration is - to my mind - the key to settling in happily.

sunita AradhnacoverWhat’s next for you?
Many more books that provide value and joy to the readers.

What is the best piece of advice you ever got?
Change is the only constant - so chin up, embrace life - it's the only one you have; and the only way to create positive memories when you are in your golden years. This too shall pass is the motto to imbibe with a smile.

Anything else we need to know?
Just smile on and enjoy life.

Click here to get your hands on "The Entrepreneur's Wife - A Survival Guide"
Order via Amazon or download a kindle version. Enjoy the read!

 

Sunita's Bio

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Sunita is an Executive Coach, Trainer and Consultant. She is of Indian origin and was born in London before moving to Geneva in 1992. She has a Psychology background (specialising in Occupational Psychology) and a Post Graduate in the Development and Training of Adults. She also completed a Masters in Ressources Humaines, Coaching et Gestion des Carrières at the University of Geneva.

During her 25 years experience Sunita's drive has always been to help people to do their best and hence led her to create Walk The Talk.

In her free time Sunita is a Mentor for the Branson Center of Entrepreneurship and a proud member of the School in The Cloud Team.

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By Sunita Sehmi, Walk The Talk

Happy New Year and what better way to start the New Year with an uplifting piece on Happiness!

American and Israeli teacher, and writer in the areas of positive psychology and leadership, Tal Ben-Shahar, was born 1970. As a lecturer at Harvard University, Tal created the most popular course in Harvard's history. Influenced by the pioneering work of Dr Martin Seligman, the world-renowned founder of positive psychology, Tal Ben-Shahar states that his goal in teaching positive psychology "is to create a bridge between the Ivory Tower and Main Street.”

In addition to his work at Harvard, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations, addressing such topics as happiness, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, mindfulness, and leadership. I was incredibly lucky to have interviewed him: as you will read, he really walks the talk! Enjoy!

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By Sunita Sehmi, Walk The Talk

Susan Anderson has devoted more than 30 years of clinical experience and groundbreaking research in working with victims of abandonment trauma.

Founder of the Abandonment Recovery movement, she is author of four books including Journey from Abandonment to Healing, Taming Your Outer Child, Black Swan: Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery and a WORKBOOK: Journey from Heartbreak to Connection.

“Of all human fears abandonment is the most primal. Left unresolved, this deep personal wound can linger beneath the surface where it undermines self-esteem and interferes in our relationships from within.”

Tell us about yourself.  I’m a psychotherapist specializing in helping victims of abandonment trauma, as well as other types of loss and heartbreak.  I’ve spent the past 30 years researching and writing about the abandonment and related issues of relationship conflicts, attachment, separation, addiction, grief, and personal growth.  

What got you into abandonment and healing?  Twenty years into my career as a psychotherapist specializing in abandonment, I had my own traumatic abandonment experience.  The love of my life – my marital partner of 20 years, suddenly up and left me for another woman.  I felt overwhelming pain and devastation, forcing me to realize that the tools I had been using to help my clients were simply not powerful enough to overcome the lasting effects of this trauma.  There was nothing in the literature of psychology or self-help that offered any true remedy, so to help myself and to help others, I began researching new ways to repair abandonment’s painful wound.  The result is the Five Stages of Abandonment and Recovery.  

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By Sunita Sehmi, Walk The Talk

A few months ago a friend of mine gave me a copy of the film Tashi and the Monk. She explained the project and gave me a brief history about the benevolent monk behind the project Jhamste. Jhamtse (jhaam’-tsay) is Tibetan for “love and compassion”, it is an international non-profit organization run by volunteers and sustained by individuals who participate in their programs. The film lay on my desk for a time but I kept thinking of completing my never-ending to do list before I was permitted to watch it! What I saw and what I witnessed was so heart-rending, so touching it literally blew me away. The 42-minute film has no elaborate camerawork, no superstar narrator, just an unpretentious story of Tashi and the monk, Lobsang Phuntsok. This left me even more curious and desperate to become involved with Tashi and Lobsang, because we have all met a Tashi in our lives. A chaotic, scorned and angry child due to no fault of their own and then it just takes one person to believe in this child and help this child and this can be life changing for them.

Lobsang only has room for 85 children at his school but he is bombarded with hundreds of requests from villagers begging him to take in more. But he just can’t, with limited capacity Lobsang has to make some life-altering decisions.

“Many people believe in compassion. Because it works.” Lobsang Phuntsok

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By Sunita Sehmi, Walk The Talk

Anthony Levene is the Director of AMATA SA with twenty years’ experience producing and directing TV commercials, corporate films, and through-the-line marketing and internal communications campaigns for leading international brands.

Operating in Switzerland and the UK, he works with a highly experienced and talented team to deliver two distinct services to clients worldwide: Production Services and Bespoke Communications.

Film production services in Switzerland range from TV commercials, web and corporate, to TV documentaries and feature films - at all levels of budget whether it be a shoot downtown or up the highest mountain peak.

Recently Anthony and his team fully serviced a complicated glacier shoot for Nike featuring two US Olympic athletes and they also ensured that the Oscar-winning director, Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu, created a powerful Nike film featuring Roger Federer.

I caught up with him about his move to Switzerland from the UK, the trials and tribulations of being local and global. I hope you enjoy the interview as much as I did.